How I, Joe Biel, Have Been Accountable for People I’ve Hurt

I was married from 2002–2004. It was years before I was diagnosed with autism in 2009 and learned how to understand or respond appropriately t​o​ emotions and nonverbal communication. I came to understand that intentions were not what mattered as much as impact. If you’re unfamiliar, here’s a story on Invisibilia about an autistic doctor who had seven medical assistants quit in one year due to, as she puts it, “over and over again the world didn’t respond the way she expected.” Similarly, I hurt my ex and several others in serious ways which I feel…